Every day I am witnessing and questioning these ways of being human. Our behavior, words and thoughts….for me it is a journey of questioning without the arrival of answers (per se)……curiosity upon curiosity.
Why is it that when I hear people speak in manners that diminish themselves or others….I feel a contraction within myself….a wince. When I notice this contraction (as fleeting as it may be) I get incredibly curious about it. How did it feel overall in my body? Does it seem like a sensation that nourishes me? Generally speaking I have yet to feel it be anything other than depleting or limiting. So I ask myself if I want to contribute, manifest or engage in energy or activity that is contrary to nourishment? The resounding reply within me is no, I do not. My ‘being’ gravitates toward nourishment and potential.
So then I begin to wonder why it is so prevalent and acceptable to engage in thoughts, words and actions that seem to diminish/malnourish one’s self or others. Often times it can be incredibly subtle because we have so deftly absorbed this type of language and behavior into our vernacular…..and yet even the more blatant acts or comments can unfold without question or backlash.
I begin to wonder how perhaps compassion, personal awareness, love without condition and empathy can offer guidance into new patterns, language and perceptions…..new possibility for interacting and being without diminishing or lacking nourishment.
How does each of us find a path that allows us to see and feel every person as equal in ‘status’ even while honoring our differences and uniqueness? How can we enjoy our opinions without them needing to minimize someone else’s opinions? How can we engage them without subscribing to the built in hierarchical system? How can we have our opinions but not be attached to them?
All of this is simply questioning with the acceptance that there are no ‘true’ answers and the idea of ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ doesn’t apply in this context (and many others). Whether we choose to question any of this or not…there is no right or wrong choice.
It is all simply choices and then life unfolding from these individual and collective choices.
I believe that everything from our thoughts, to feelings and to actions is intimately interconnected between us all. That each of us affects the other in ways beyond measure or even comprehension. There is no limit to how connected we are and yet we seem to live as if we are definitively separate and perhaps even arrogantly independent.
What would change if you knew that the love you show/share with a friend or relative rippled out and touched total strangers? Or if the angry words said in a heated moment or traffic jam can do the same? What if every thoughts, feeling and action we have was like a stone tossed in a pond affecting the point of contact but rippling out infinitely and influencing everything along the way? How would our sense of responsibility change?
I believe each of us is a vast energetic source of power….each of us without exception is this. In many ways it seems we have lost our connection to it. And I can feel how each of us are allies in reconnecting individually and collectively within again. Without judgement or the language of ‘shoulds’….. our belief in one another , without exception, feels like a mighty and brilliant force.